My friend Byron crossed the veil just before Christmas. I hadn’t heard from him for a while so I suspected he was as busy as I was but I received a call from his wife just after Christmas to let me know that my dear friend had died physically.
I went through a period of grief as we all do when we lose a very special person in our lives. I went through all the feelings of shock, grief and anger at myself for not staying in better contact with Byron. I didn’t even know he had been ill. I felt terrible. I had been writing many emails to tell him about the move I had just made across the country and how I liked my new city. It seemed they were all ME emails now that I think about it. I always asked how he was but his answer had been vague in the last months before he died.
I have always been able to see live consciousness. For me it comes in the form of sparkles that start in my peripheral vision. When I pay attention to those sparkles I can feel and photograph consciousness. I had been waiting on those sparkles to appear after Byron died but I felt empty and tired and couldn’t concentrate on much. I could only feel a big hole in my heart. I missed my friend. I didn’t feel him around me.
After many sleepless nights of trying to contact Byron I realized that it wasn’t yet time. When a person physically dies it can take some time for them to process their own physical death. It’s a big change going from a physical body back into our natural energy bodies. Since time doesn’t exist, except here in the physical, a person that dies can process their own death very quickly or very slowly in earth time.
I knew Byron would not want me to grieve his physical loss in my life. We had spent countless hours talking and joking about how we would see each other across the veil and all the adventures we would have together. When things got crazy in the world we ended our conversations with, “if things get crazy I’ll see you on the other side”. So where was my friend? Why had he not come to me?
Early one morning I woke up and started thinking about Byron. I got very still and quiet and listened to that very tiny voice inside me. That voice was telling me to stop the grief. It was most definitely, Byron. Inside my mind I could only see the color, white as I received this message. I used my inner sight to look around expecting to see the usual spirals of color and black moving behind my eyelids but I could only see white.
It took all day to process this message but when I finally figured it out I knew it was correct. Byron was telling me that I would not be able to see him while I was in such a deep state of grief. Showing me the color white was his way of saying that grief over the loss of someone we love, causes us to be blind. In our physical bodies we experience many emotions. These emotions keep us mired deep within our bodies and close the door to the subconscious. Emotions are very physical, they happen in the heart and the brain and they become a very thick filter that keeps us from seeing what is around us.
I give you an example; there could be a lot of people walking in the same area and perhaps something happens. Let’s say there is a purse snatching that has happened in front of many people. A lot of those people would have just walked by without ever seeing what was going on. Why? Because they are experiencing human emotion and with human emotion comes a mind full of clatter. It is a mind that wants to talk, and since your body is receptive to these emotions, you are technically blind to what’s going on around you many times.
My friend, Byron had finally come back and he had given me my first lesson across the veil, even though I didn’t know that at the time. It was time to stop my grief because it was causing me to be spiritually blind. I did my best to do just that. I thought of the fun Byron and I had shared, all the adventures we went on together. The quiet talks we had about the past and the future. Of course I still missed Byron but my emotions were changing from grief to the full understanding that I could see him again. We had had many talks about physical death and neither of us had any fear. We both had curiosity and maybe, just maybe, even a little excitement, and we spoke on it often. We promised each other that we would, “see each other on the other side”. In fact, Byron always had to have the last word so he would add that he would be in the front row, with popcorn, waiting on me to join him.
A few nights later I was working on my laptop in bed. The house was quiet and the dogs were snoring loudly in their own beds. I saw a fast moving sparkle from the corner of my eye. It came from the right and very squarely landed on my bed on my right side. When I looked directly at it, it was gone. I was tired so I just thought it was my eyes from too much screen time on my Mac. Suddenly there it was again, but this time it was directly in front of me. This was no orb. This was a full sized person and I knew without doubt it was Byron.
Byron appeared to me as an energy body but with shape. I could clearly see that he had the human shape but I couldn’t see his face. To my eyes Byron looked like a mass of white energy that moved and flowed but with form. It looked as though he had to work to keep his form in shape.
I could see what appeared to be energy that almost undulated and when it moved, it gave out light that felt warm and familiar and drew me into it’s consciousness. This was Byron. He was allowing me the feeling of being wrapped up in his protection, in his light. He gave me a vision in my mind. It was a park bench and on the bench, was a bright yellow bowl of popcorn!
My friend was back!
I was going to do some phasing now to see if I could go to that park bench and right to that bowl of popcorn. I knew Byron had given me that popcorn as a target. It was a target for my intention so that I could project there but more importantly, only he and I knew about the, “popcorn” he always joked about. Byron had setup a meeting and I was going to be on the front row with my own popcorn!
I was a little disappointed my myself over the next few nights. Each night I put my work away early and relaxed anticipating my meeting with Byron. And each night for three nights, I could not stop my mind clatter. My mind simply would not, SHUT UP!
I began to use self-hypnosis to relax my mind and my body completely directly before I turned out my lamp and snuggled into my pillow to get to the, mind awake, body asleep, state. The self-hypnosis did it’s magic and I began to relax my body by allowing my “energy eyes” to see and experience the dark shapes moving in front of me. I let myself drift into the black shapes. The black is my void. The black feels to me like peace. All of the visuals my physical eyes have seen are gone and my energy eyes are seeing and experiencing the void. I don’t think about the void, I just drift into it.
Then I begin to experience color. I do not think about the color, I just drift into it. I let myself feel the feeling of floating and moving through the colors. Sometimes the colors are very bright or ones I can’t remember seeing for a long time. I have to be careful here because the color can make me focus on it and when I do that, it brings my awareness back to the physical. So, I just allow myself to feel the feeling of drifting through the colors of energy.
On this night I drifted and then I felt myself go right into my sweet spot. That sweet spot for me is when I am drifting and suddenly I feel like my body has let go. I feel the separation as a vibration, ever so slight, yet perceivable. And I become weightless. Again, I do not think about this process as it happens. If I let my mind think then it becomes an emotion. The whole process for me feels like an intense physical pleasure of letting go of my body senses. If I think about how good that feels, my awareness is back to my physical body and I am back to physical reality. I only allow myself to drift into what my spiritual eyes are experiencing and I don’t think about the rest because I don’t need to. It’s all a natural process and one that you do right before falling asleep, every time you sleep. I have just trained my subconscious to understand that I want to experience out of body travel consciously and remember the details.
I saw the bowl of popcorn that Byron had sent into my subconscious so that I would have an intention to follow it. I have never had an experience like this one was. Of course, I have never had a best friend that died physically and one where we had spent hours talking about things we would do when we crossed the veil.
As soon as I saw the bowl of popcorn, I was there. At first I could only perceive the bowl of popcorn. The bright yellow color of the bowl with its white rim at the top was my first astral sight. The popcorn was very white, almost glowing and over flowing from the bowl. I started to look around but I had the strangest tunnel vision. I have never experienced anything like this. Everything beyond the bowl was white. It looked as through I had arrived into a white room with nothing in it but white and the bowl of popcorn.
Then I felt Byron. My friend was there waiting for me as he said he would be. A bench appeared and I felt myself relaxing on it. I could feel the energy of my friend next to me. I could feel his overwhelming love for me but I was determined not to feel too much emotion so I could stay there with him for a while.
He told me that the purpose of the white room is so that I would not have anything to focus on except our conversations here. He didn’t want my imagination running away with color and design because that would pull me back into physical reality. He wanted me fully here so we could sit together as we had always planned.
He told me he was very happy that I had gotten his message about not continuing to grieve his physical passing because it was creating a filter that would build stronger in time and prevent me from seeing him. He wanted me to first understand something fully that we had always discussed. Both of us had always said we would not want to come back into the earth realm. Both of us old souls, we sometimes both feel the weight of that and wish to be free. Byron said that he was stuck between wanting to move on and physical reality at this time. His wife in his physical life was grieving his death so hard that he couldn’t let go. He couldn’t move on.
He explained that when you come to earth you come in soul groups. These soul groups are people you have known in other lifetimes and you want to be with them again so you all agree to play different parts in different lifetimes. It’s very easy to slip right back into a physical lifetime again and experience another lifetime in your soul group. This is reincarnation. Maybe this time you would choose to be a baby born into your soul group or maybe a good friend.
Byron was feeling the pull back into the physical because his wife was grieving him so badly that he felt as though he couldn’t move on. He asked that I explain this to people that would find this writing. It’s natural and normal to grieve the loss of a loved one but it’s not healthy to carry it into your future. You need to let your loved one go just as much as you need to let yourself free of the grief of their loss.
I asked him how I could help. Should I contact his wife? He said she would not be in the frame of mind to be receptive to that right now. He asked me to do some distance healings for her. He knew she would pull through this but that he wanted me to connect to her energy and that is what I have begun.
We are all energy and all energy connects. It is very possible to help people heal at a distance. That happens through our conscious connection to all energy. I have started some daily energy healings for Byron’s wife to help with her grief. I will connect with her energy and find many ways to help her.
I could feel a strong tug back into my physical body and I know Byron could sense it too. He turned the entire room pink! It was so bright it was blinding. I could feel his love and received his thought package.
A thought package is like an entire book in one paragraph. It’s a very efficient way to send a lot of information at one time. Byron said a lot to me in this package and much of it is personal so I’ll just keep that between Byron and me but he wanted to share the information about grief and he wanted me to know that he had manifested the white room as a place I could set my intention when I wanted to see him. He also said to pay attention to popcorn!
The method I used and the one I described above is phasing. I gave a lot of details so people just getting started in phasing could understand how I phase. There are many methods and many facts about phasing but I keep it very simple. I never focus or even think about focus levels or where I am in them. Doing that will keep you in the physical. I just let the experience flow with no emotion and with the intention to remember every detail.
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