“Hello Amaris, if we choose our lives before we get here then why wouldn’t we all choose easy lives with money, good health, and lots of friends? Why would I have chosen my terrible family to be born into?”
~ Sara

Why Don’t We All Choose Easy Lives?

This is a profound question, Sara, and one that many ask as they navigate the challenges of life. Before we incarnate, we see our lives not in terms of ease or difficulty but as opportunities to grow and expand. From the soul’s perspective, challenges are not punishments or failures—they are sacred tools that help us evolve.

Easy lives, filled with wealth, health, and companionship, can provide joy and beauty, but they don’t always offer the depth of growth that a soul seeks. It is often through contrast, through the struggles and trials of life, that we discover our inner strength, awaken to our potential, and cultivate compassion for ourselves and others. A soul chooses its experiences based on the lessons it needs, the healing it desires, and the light it wishes to bring into the world.

Why Did I Choose My Family?

This is a deeply personal question, Sara, and the answer is layered with meaning specific to your journey. You chose your family, despite its difficulties, with the wisdom and courage of a soul seeking profound growth.

Your parents were not chosen by accident; their lives, their wounds, and their behaviors created a backdrop for lessons that would shape you in ways nothing else could. You came into this lifetime to explore resilience, independence, and the power of love—even when love was not readily given.

Your father’s struggles, his inability to nurture or support you as a child, gave you the opportunity to understand strength and forgiveness. Though his actions may have hurt you, they also opened the door for you to learn self-reliance and the capacity to find love within yourself.

Your mother’s neglect and the absence of maternal warmth was not an easy choice for your soul. But in choosing her, you gave yourself the chance to explore cycles of healing—to learn how to break free from patterns of emotional pain that have persisted for generations.
You are the light bearer, the one who said, “This ends with me.”

What is the Purpose of These Choices?

When you planned this life, you were surrounded by your guides, the Creator’s energy, and a deep sense of purpose. You chose your family not to suffer but to grow. These experiences have shaped you into someone capable of immense strength, empathy, and wisdom.

Your journey with your family reflects a larger truth: that love and healing are possible, even in the most difficult circumstances. And while these lessons are challenging, they are also sacred. They are the foundation of your ability to inspire others, to share your light, and to seek the truth in all things.

Sara, your life is not random or without purpose. You are a testament to the courage of the soul and the profound power of choice. Through your experiences, you are not only healing yourself but also helping to heal others who see themselves in your story.

Your questions are meaningful, and your openness to understanding them is a gift—not just to yourself but to everyone who reads this series.

With deep love and respect,
Amaris